I have seen it work many times with people with addiction issues of every hue:
Military and veteran families are among those most victimized by addiction issues. Every day we deal with this issue, every third person we meet carries scars, open wounds. Read and pay attention: Up to forty percent of Americans are not living their own lives.
They have been programmed though trauma sometimes beginning in early childhood, their experiences, their imprinting, their life with a drunk parent or spouse or child. What we are addressing here is the insidious threat this represents as the addiction industry profits from coddling and yes exploiting as well, the addict, the drunk, the abuser, the user, the narcissist, the sociopath, all just words, but it is more than words.
For the purpose of this informative article, the definition of the concept of co-dependency is as follows: Any treatment program involves accepting that moving on to a productive life may well mean abandoning those around you. Forinstance, if alcoholics were terrorist kidnappers, there could be solace in following codependency relationships such as in the Stockholm syndrome, to keep immediate life on an even keel.
With extended family relationships, alcoholic codependency can not only flow down to spouses, siblings, then children and so on, but also climb up the age ladder as well.
When the divorce comes, and be assured it will or should always come in these relationships, the dangling codependent mother- in- law, time after time is quick to turn on her own child. In the earliest day of sociology as a study, there was a realization that families and alcohol could never coexist.
However, it took the flapper era and later the social realignments of WWII when millions had been going off to war, and massive urban migration, with women entering the industrial work place in the tens of millions, that brought alcoholism to the distinction as a disease that crossed gender lines in the mainstream.
Still, the old traditions and the images of Carrie Nation have carried forward nearly a century.
Where use of alcohol has declined, social drugs of the s onward, initially brought into the mainstream as part of a cultural rebellion, have led to generations of substance addiction, too often justified by the addict as treatment for a real or imagined problem.
Whether it is due to chronic pain, depression, stress or simply boredom the addict is driven by the desire to take drugs. Alcohol is a drug, just not as strictly regulated. Smoking a joint in college, these decades later, for some has led to a national epidemic of opioid abuse and endless cocktail mixes of designer drugs as well.
Special Cases, Above the Law The medical community is the worst policed, worst regulated, and most pampered of the high risk, high abuse groups that are identified. For physicians, it is typically the abuse of stimulants, Ritalin or dexamphetamine, passed out like candy, from medical school to residency and beyond.
Medical associations, oversight boards, group partnerships and local law enforcement have for generations given drug addled medical professionals a pass until that day when they kill the wrong patient or the DEA kicks down their door.
Only when getting caught for selling opioid prescriptions will the law be eventually obligated to step in and remove the medical license from the doctor. The last four American presidents and vice presidents, have histories of illegal drug use with the 43rd president having a long history of addiction to drugs and alcohol.
What is important to examine here are the dynamics which destroy a family such as the patterns of control, abuse and interdependency can be duplicated in an office, hospital, or even at national levels where the selfish and extreme behaviors of the empowered narcissist can do untold damage and touch the lives of millions.
Cascading Disaster You can see how far this can go.Any behavior you engage in that is self-sabotaging, that takes you away from what you want, or that distracts you from your goals is behavior that is self-defeating.
These behaviors zap your vitality, leaving you exhausted and without access to the powerful energy you need to create your best life. Are You Connected. June 15, What Went Right teaches you to recognize and intervene on self-defeating thought processes.
Through these exercises, you this book focuses on self-sabotaging behavior patterns and good principles of self-care. Love addicts tend to “love” others in maladaptive, compulsive, and self defeating ways that result in a diminished capacity of healthy or loving relationships with another person and the “self”.
Love addicts can become obsessed and dependent to any type of person. Unlike CD treatment, whose goal is abstinence from use of all psychoactive substances, the therapeutic goal in addictive sexual disorders is abstinence only from compulsive, self-destructive, and self-defeating sexual behaviors.
To learn more about your outer child read: Taming Your Outer Child: Overcoming Your Self-Defeating Patterns or Journey from Abandonment to Healing by Susan Anderson, the creator of the outer child concept. Addiction and Grace: Love and Spirituality in the Healing of Addictions, by Gerald May. by davesandel on February 25th, Addiction and Grace: Love and Spirituality in the Healing of Addictions by Gerald May, psychologists thought that virtually all self-defeating behavior was caused by repression.
I have now come to believe that.